The Power of Clear Communication

When you enforce communication, you're actually managing emotions. That’s why it's so important to develop our own way of communicating and to walk in discernment.

There are times when we need counsel to help us find our yeses and amens, and that’s perfectly fine. But once you know your yes, don’t let someone persuade you otherwise. Once you know your no, stand firm in it.

I remember something a pastor in Alberta shared with me—he said, "I have people around me to advise me, but that doesn’t mean I have to take their advice." That really stuck with me.

Too often, we assume that just because we give someone good advice, they have to follow it. But advice should never override someone’s calling. Instead, it should enhance their vision, bring clarity to their yeses, and refine their noes. If I give you advice, it's not written in stone—you have the freedom to choose.

And I know many of you have felt this—maybe you've invested in someone, and when they say no, you think, Wait, I thought we had something here! Why are they walking away?

But let me share an example. We had someone that was part of Kid’s ministry for a season. She gave it a try, then came to us and communicated that it wasn’t where she was meant to be. She didn’t just disappear or quit without explanation—she communicated her no with honesty. And because of that, we were able to celebrate her and reposition her where her yes could be fully utilized.

That’s the kind of communication we need in the body of Christ. But unfortunately, some people don’t handle their no’s that way. They just stop showing up. No explanation. No conversation. And honestly, that can be painful. It shouldn’t be, but it is—because as a church, we love deeply. We pour into people, and when they suddenly disappear, it can feel like a punch to the gut.

On the flip side, there are also those who force a yes when they shouldn’t. They commit to something without seeking God’s permission, and later, they realize they’re in over their heads. That hurts, too.

So, we have to be intentional about what we say yes and no to. We must keep our communication clear—not just to avoid offense, but so we can grow together, walk in unity, and align with God’s purpose for each of us.

Let’s be a people who communicate well, stand firm in our yeses and noes, and walk in wisdom. Amen!