Discernment, Truth, and Love

How to Deal with the Jezebel Character: Discernment, Truth, and Love

How many of you actually want to know how to deal with this stuff? Let's walk through it—step by step. There’s a way to confront this spirit, but it starts with a foundation of humility, wisdom, and love.

1. Discernment

You never move without discernment—ever. Discernment is essential. You need spiritual insight before you act on anything. You have to know what you’re dealing with. You can’t just go around believing every word you hear. You need to spiritually discern what’s really going on.

The Jezebel operates under the radar. That’s what makes it so hard to identify at first. And because of that, many people mislabel or misdiagnose it. Without discernment, you will likely get it wrong.

2. The Word of God

Everything has to line up with the Word. If it doesn’t, you can’t trust it—and you certainly can't confront a spirit like Jezebel without it.

Sound doctrine is your weapon. The Jezebel spirit will twist scripture, manipulate it, and promote teachings that subtly (or not so subtly) contradict the Bible. If you don’t know the Word for yourself, you’ll fall for deception. That’s why you need a strong foundation in Scripture—it’s your safeguard.

3. Accountability

You need accountability when you believe you're seeing something spiritual. If I discern a Jezebel—or anything serious—I go to my team. I go to my prophetic counsel and say, "This is what I see. Can we weigh it together?"

Strong leadership and accountability are non-negotiable. If you're in leadership and you're not accountable to anyone, I have to question what you're building. Not because you're evil or bad, but because unaccountable leaders can’t be trusted with unchecked spiritual authority. Accountability protects both you and those you minister to.

If you're going to take on something as intense as this spirit, you better be brave enough to fast. Don’t just act—seek God first. If you really believe you're dealing with something big, take time to fast and pray before you move. That’s wisdom.

4. Confrontation in Love

Now that you’ve discerned, aligned with Scripture, and brought in accountability—then comes confrontation. But it must be done in love.

Love might sound like this: “I love your passion. I love your intercession. I love what God has placed inside you. But I have to bring this to your attention.”

That’s what loving confrontation looks like. It doesn’t start with accusation—it starts with honoring the gold in someone, while also gently but firmly addressing what’s not right.

In Revelation 2:21, Jesus speaks of the church tolerating Jezebel. He says He gave her time to repent, but she refused. The same principle applies to us. Restoration should always be offered first. We don’t confront to shame—we confront to bring healing.

A Warning About Mislabeling

Let me say something that might challenge you—protect me, Church, when I say this:

Most people who cry out against Jezebel often speak from the very spirit they claim to be confronting. They don’t even know it. Why? Because when you accuse without relationship, without permission, or without true discernment—that’s accusation. And accusation, without the Spirit of Christ, opens the door to strife.

If I say, “You have a demon,” and I’ve never talked to you, never been invited into your life, never earned the right to speak to your heart—that’s not discernment. That’s accusation. Even if I’m technically right, I’m still wrong in approach. And that damages people deeply.

I’ve seen people crumble under the weight of false spiritual accusations—nervous breakdowns, confusion, loss of trust in the church. That’s not deliverance—that’s destruction.

So yes, the Jezebel character is real. But many who talk about it the most may be unknowingly operating under it—through pride, suspicion, and unloving accusation.

What This Character Really Does

The Jezebel undermines spiritual authority and brings division among believers. It causes disruption, sows strife, and weakens the church from within.

And it’s everywhere. I hear stories online and in real life—people being undermined, pastors being betrayed, leaders being questioned in secret. It's a wolf-in-sheep’s-clothing mentality. People whisper, “Well, I can’t tell you what they said because they told me in confidence.” But if someone tells you something in “confidence” that tears down your church or your leader, it’s no longer confidential—it’s toxic.

And if anyone tried to do that to you—I would protect you. We all should. That’s love. That’s honor. That’s what builds unity in the body of Christ.

Undermining spiritual authority opens a door—then another, then another—and eventually, trust is shattered. Rebuilding after that kind of damage takes years. The wounds go deep.

What Jesus Said to the Church in Revelation

Jesus said, “I know your works, your love, your service, your faith, and your patience.” (Rev. 2:19) That word for “love” in the Greek is phileō—a brotherly love. Jesus said, “You’re doing good. You’re loving well. You’re patient. Your faith is strong. But…”

Then comes the correction.

He says, “Nevertheless, I have this against you—you tolerate that woman Jezebel.”

Jesus first pulled out the gold. He affirmed them before He corrected them. That’s how we should do it too. When you start by recognizing the good, people are more open to hear the truth. It builds a bridge for healing and repentance.

Final Thoughts

Church, we must be wise. We must be discerning. We must be rooted in the Word, accountable in community, and full of love when confronting darkness. Don’t fear the Jezebel spirit—but don’t be careless with your words, either.

Let’s be a people who walk in truth and grace—bold in discernment, gentle in love, and always anchored in Jesus.